Coach David here uh with Metro Jiu-Jitsu here with Professor Muhammad Professor how we doing today my man hey good morning run over to GNC coach we'll get you a hydration drink oh there we go actually that's not a that's not a bad gig because what it's probably I might be just under yeah it might be a mile and a half there maybe a little bit less but uh running down eurek is a dangerous game dude like they people people don't look like I I don't know I don't know if I want to do that so um we'll see uh so guys we uh we have several topics we're gonna talk about today um just in no particular order we're talking about uh I think it you know it would let's let's recap you know we'll just do like a brief you know recap our tournament and we went to Arnold's uh to kind of talk about how that went but then also private lessons how to get the most out of your school and your instructor how to study jiujitsu on YouTube and then the best and worst training partners that you're stuck with and if we have time we're gonna answer the question is Jiu-Jitsu a cult and then uh Ramadan is coming up uh the later was it in a week coach that here is it a week that Ramadan comes up seven days so I want to talk about you know I kind of want to go into um obviously I'm I'm personally really familiar with uh with training Partners who train during Ramadan and uh and I want to kind of go into what that's like if we can't hit on this podcast we'll hit on the next one so let's start with uh let's start with the private lessons Okay and we'll just ask who take who should take private lessons uh coach how many private lessons have you taken is it really is there a point in which it's not worth it if you haven't been training long enough and uh and we'll kind of go from there yeah yeah so uh so what is the a private lesson so essentially it's a one-on-one lesson for uh Brazilian jiu-jitsu or it could be a small group lesson and it's uh essentially having more one-on-one time with the owner uh or the instructor or coach and uh they get to take a closer look at your Technique your training and the feedback or the the help you're going to get is is is much more specific to you versus being in a room with like you know 30 40 50 of other people you have to kind of speak to the masses but in private lessons you're uh you know it's essentially uh one-on-one or very very specific to you so so I've got a you know I get asked and and I've got I I don't know what's going on with my voice with my voice voice I kind of got this this sultry sort of like Phoebe buet you know like like singer voice going it's scratchy to my knowledge I'm not sick it's just kind of getting course and I don't know what the issue is so I apologize in advance but um I get asked you know for private lessons every now and then um personally I I don't um I don't personally enjoy them you know number one I'd I'd rather teach groups I will do them I have done them but you I tend to get asked them more from like people who just started you know two or three months in and my my personal answer is I'm like guys what am I going to teach you like what am I you know what am I going to teach you two or three months in like like go over our blue belt curriculum look at that ask you know you know it's I always try to private lessons you know you're paying a premium Now for uh for that time with your with your instructor I try to treat that money like like my money you know is it going to be worth it and you know do you really want to pay over 100 bucks an hour for um you know to learn a KNE cut or a lot of them they can't even move their bodies right to to kind of fully do it so that that's my opinion I know I uh I you know I maybe um not everyone shares that what's what's your thoughts on that if someone's just getting started in I mean private lessons are they really necessary is it the best investment what's what's what's kind of your take on that yeah so uh one I I believe private lessons uh should be almost mandatory in JJ Brazilian jiu-jitsu uh you know I uh going back when I was like 12 years old just after I played soccer for a few years from like five or six to pre-teen um and even you're going back like 30 years or more even then once you get to the teenage level uh it started to become [Music] more common for uh kids and parents to say I want to separate myself I want to get better I want to compete more at whatever sport it is and uh so I have experience in investing in uh basketball football uh hockey uh of course martial arts I've tooken hundreds and hundreds spent thousands of thousands of dollars on private lessons so uh so yeah I think that uh my opinion is you definitely need private lessons so so everybody needs something different sometimes when you first start out in Jiu-Jitsu you don't really know what it is that you need what you want and what you need are two different things so someone he's starting out in two or three months they might need a little bit of a little bit more of a pad on the back and say you know what just you know keep training and uh keep your head up what you're going through is normal they might need a little bit more one-on-one time to give the student or athlete a little bit more emotional support and as people start training more it's funny because they start to need more technical help and then it circles back and even after you've been training two three four five seven years it's happened to myself now you need more emotional support again because what we you know Brazilian jiu-jitsu is like it takes a long time to put all the pieces together so I've been um I've been going to you know like I think you know I think a lot of people know by now you know i' I've got a uh you know just a personal goal one one of the things I hate most about Jiu-Jitsu is competing uh I I really don't enjoy any any portion of it and um and so you know my kind of a p personal philosophy I have is to kind of you know embrace the suck there kind of go towards you know that which you're kind of afraid of a little bit so yeah you know I've got I've got a goal to compete 15 times this year and every time I go out and compete I'm sending stuff to Coach Alvarez and he is uh he's um he's giving me like adjustments right and it none of it is like your missing this totally flashy move you know it's literally like some of a lot of the things are just like framing you know framing um timing a little bit you know and and and at the black belt level it's like who makes the first mistake you know I can go back at I think I had six matches on Saturday they almost all of them came down to just one mistake you know uh I think I lost three by decision which is just the worst like that that's I'd almost rather lose on points to know that I got beat then to like if it came down to decision like that was my fault you know so uh so that those those simple fundamental Jiu-Jitsu is is really um is is those things that's really helpful it's really helpful for that you know and um so so what uh so you I know and I know you've taken a lot of private lessons that's actually how you met um Coach Alvarez was that uh Andre oh seminar right and uh yeah it was it wasn't a private but it was a seminar and uh and that's how you met that's how you met Danny what was like what did that conversation look like because I don't even I remember you called me after and you're like hey I met this guy Danny I was like okay like all right like I'm sure there's lots of people there what's what's the point and you're like well you know I kind of kind of like you see you know we were partnered up with him which is wild that that that you two got got partnered up you know it was like yeah well well I walked in like uh as the seminar it had started a couple minutes prior and um you know I know uh Jesse over there and some of the other guys uh and everybody had a partner so uh Danny was over there and uh so I I asked him if he had a partner and obviously um you know I'm a lot heavier than uh Coach Alvarez I had no idea who he is I had no idea I'm walking up to a multiple time world champion and who has multiple world champion students is like this guy is a legend and BJJ Heroes I had no idea who I'm talking to so I asked him if he had a partner and uh he's like no no come on so uh it's always you know when you're training with somebody you don't know and then you have different sizes it's both person's responsibility to try to adjust their body to help accommodate your partner so I uh you know I have a physical game but I try to stay in the confinement of being a lightweight and training like a smaller guy so I'd be more flexible be more explosive and stuff like that so umh so so yeah we started repping and you know training together and going over the moves and uh you know we just started talking you know and um you know none of it was planned and uh I exchanged numbers with him he seemed like a nice guy and uh you know you know from there you know you remember you and I spoke to him a couple times we visited him you know and uh and both of us thought it was a it was a good fit you know it wasn't like uh you know I had to make sure that he's good for us and we're good for him you know and uh you know five years later just by going to a seminar you know some great things came a great partnership um came out of it and our team is growing Alvarez's team is growing so yeah it all came out from Contin continuing uh the education so so so we're moving to just because we have a lot of topics we're moving to our next one is getting the most out of your school and your instructor uh what okay I mean so the obvious question um you know how do we how do we get the most out of out of our school and our instructor and uh let's just open it up to that you know like there's few different avenues that I'm sure will take us but let's open up to that how do how do we get the most out of it and then for each person yeah so you know when you when you have uh an instructor that you're working under or training underneath uh I think one of the worst questions to ask and and you know everybody does it but they don't know what they're doing wrong so the the wrong question to ask your instructor is what do I need to work on you know that's the ABS this is my opinion you don't want to ask your instructor what do I need to work on is there anything you see because your instructor is uh I would bet 99% of the time you know they they would not they're they're not going to be in business if they don't have an awareness to what the majority all pretty much all of their students are at what level how they're moving in certain positions so I think that's a wrong question to ask so one of the ways to get the most out of your instructor in your school is to uh they give you information and you have to take that information and you have to go use the information you know if you take that information and you go try to do something outside of the information that they're giving you then there's a big disconnect you know so if you stay in the confines of what the uh transfer of of knowledge is from one instructor to another to student then I believe you're going to have much much better questions and the questions that students ask their instructor gives them a clear very very clear uh um uh picture of what where their student is at so there's no such thing as a stupid question but there is such thing is somebody asking a question that says you are not dialed in there are there are stupid me anyone who says there are not stupid questions as never taught kids dude like like there are there are stupid I'm sorry like I'm sorry there are dumb questions usually not asked by adults right like you know but it but you know with kids there there's dumb questions so so I let's um you know let's play uh I'm gonna play devil's advocate here for a second there are guards I just don't play and every time I try to play them [ __ ] just goes south really quick case in point delaa like my delaa anytime I try to play delaa one of two things is happening I'm gonna get toe holded or heel hooked or I'm just gonna like like it's gonna be such such a lame guard for me that like they're going to back step or P it's it it's it might just it's like throwing like a a sugar cube into into a a bowl of water and just watching watching it dissolve right to the point I'm like I'm not gonna like I've been learning delaa since I was a blue belt in the G way I saw you I saw you playing delaa at the tournament so you saw you and you saw what happened right you saw you saw my back get taken I saw you playing delea and experimenting a little bit at the tournament so just for the record so yeah yeah like like every time it like never goes great like it never goes great furthermore I don't even like go be honest I don't even want to make it work I don't want a good like I don't want a good Del right like I like I'm happy with working on my half guard or Clos guard like I don't know you know I don't I don't see people getting tore up in no no guu Jitsu um with the delaa right so and I do have a body that could play it you and I have very similar body styles you play delaa very well I just I don't play it you know and and it's not a part of my game so if we're showing a de excuse me delaa series or let's say let's take someone who doesn't they just they're they're their body style is is not conducive to Dela right like like uh I'm thinking of you know north of 250 270 right and that Delah is just usually not going to work out super great for them what I mean what if they and you're teaching a Delah heiva series what what would you say to that person I mean let's let's be fair let's play a little bit Fair because I've taught things with like I've taught things you know a triangle you know and I'm thinking we have a we have a student who has has one good leg right you know she's an amputee you know what would you say to that if you like there are some things that just not conducive to that um H how can they still maximize like like like work within you know maximize getting what the instructor's coaching um if whatever that series you're covering is not really directly with uh with their body type or their game yeah so um that's a very good question and I'm going to answer it this way if you take let's say you could not do a specific move called deiva so that's where you thread one of your legs all the way through between the other one try to uh hyperextend their knee forward try to get them off balance let's say that's not for you let's say the baron bolo is not for you also that's where you kind of have to invert and get underneath the person and take their back it's it's kind of like a fancy it's one of those it's if you don't know anything about Jiu-Jitsu and you see somebody do a baron bolo you're like whoa that's that's fancy to highlight reel so yes those moves are not for everybody but when when uh the the class structure is going over those moves there are so many different grips and uses of your body against the other person's body that I believe are critical to know that transfer later on like when you when you go uh Baron bolo for example you got to pull their hip and pull them back or scoot underneath them and grab their neck I mean these grips whether it be grabbing the shoulder grabbing the top collar I think they transfer in other places and as far as deiva like you're very very vulnerable in a lot of different areas uh when you're playing the deiva guard but because you know that your leg is vulnerable for somebody else to attack then we have to be hyper vigilant on understanding where specifically are the vulnerable points and even if you can't play it maybe you can use it to get them off balance or you know throw them off into thinking you're going to play one guard and not another But to answer your question in short there's so many other pieces that come around deiva and bonolo that are useful in many areas of Jiu-Jitsu and if you take them out because you think you can't do them then I think you're going to you're going to hurt your aame or the places that you feel most comfortable on because you could be missing some grips and some uh you know learning about how their body moves your body moves where it needs to move and where it shouldn't move so um I think that's important yeah and that's that's kind of where and I'll concede that you know like like to the Delah hea you know I Tred what happened at uh at that finals dude you know that guy was a wrestling coach that finals one really yeah he was like he was a uh uh pan silver medalist and then he was a wrestling coach and uh I was rewatching the match I was like you know we kind of I didn't get taken down at least you know it was just a lot of uh back and forth but I pulled and my tripod like he he defended the tripod and so when they do that you kind of have to like a really low hanging fruit is that deliva but using it more as a transition which I which I'll concede right like if you it doesn't have to be your aame but like if you ignore it entirely it's just EV dude every time like it like every time it just it goes south pretty much immediately I think it's because it's one of those it's one of those like your first like intermediate guards that you learn like especially at Blue you know like you've got your clothes and your hat like your your your normal ones and then they're like I'm gonna start playing a little bit deah hea and everyone learns defenses to those you know like really quickly and um and they and they they keep you honest with that so um so so so not running away from them but also just understanding hey my body's more conducive to maybe a different primary aame so uh moving on to the next uh to our next topic here just how to study Jiu-Jitsu on YouTube honestly you know I've got I mean I
don't I I'm I I kind of like what what I'm doing right now with Coach Alvarez I'm not going to lie to you like I'll send him a YouTube video of of of things not working for me and then he'll send me a short because I just need a lot of times it's just that it's like one thing or two things I'm doing wrong right um and that's that's a simple like adjusting your current game I've got a I've got a I've kind of got a a foundational game though if I didn't have any game boy I would feel like I'm drinking from a fire hydrant going on YouTube you know I I mean there was just so much like how do you know what to even pay attention to I mean I see some I see some stuff I see it more on Instagram but I'm like dude if I was a white belt trying this stuff I I don't know it would be like it would be like learning how to shingle a roof before you've like put the footings in on a house a little bit you know like like it it's kind of you need the foundations to work for this to even apply what are your thoughts on it yeah I agree I think whatever level like let's let's put you into zero to six months uh 6 to 12 12 you know and above so depending on where the person is at uh that is going to the answer might change a little bit but for beginners in Jiu-Jitsu for beginners they're like you said drink it's like drinking from a fire hydrant there is so much information out there and uh sometimes the person's intention is to get views and sometimes it's actually to teach you uh Jiu-Jitsu so I would say that um you the you can get the most benefit off of Jiu-Jitsu or YouTube or instructionals by looking up and read researching what you are working on in class because if you spend a whole hour working in class and then you spend another 30 to 60 Minutes training position training working on that and then you go on YouTube and you're working on something completely different you know it's like picking up a brand new book after you if you're halfway through one of them like it's really gonna it's it's kind of a waste of time I like that so I think yeah I think there I think there's a lot of benefit to YouTube but you use it to learn whatever you're uh studying in the class and there's many different variations I was telling somebody last night they were asking me about uh the deiva or the exard or whatever and I said look I'm not going to tell you where to put your hands I'm not going to tell you exactly where to put your feet what I am going to tell you if you took away one of their hands and one of their feet out of the equation it doesn't really matter where specifically things go what does matter is you use your body to push them towards the hand that's away which they can't base or the leg that's away which they can't base from so it's not really about uh you know that was a very specific uh uh um uh you know student that we were working with but um uh yeah use Jiu-Jitsu uh YouTube or instructionals to look up what you're learning in school that will expedite your learning curve yeah I think I think that's um you know it's kind of
like I want to learn world history it's a big it's a big topic dude you know like what like what are you actually studying like are you studying like Western history Easter you know like and and going deep going deep into that I mean you look at just look at the you look at the high levels and they're like doing like they've got like five or six moves that they that they're that they're good at you know and coach saula goes deep into that like like he's like you know don't worry about the guy like nobody has a th they're they're not like okay at a thousand moves they're incredibly good at like four and like so good to where I can call it out on you you know he's obviously our takedown coach like to where like I can like I'm gonna hit a fireman on you and you won't be able to stop me you know like that's the level of which like you want to get good at you know and um and we talk about you know like our fundamentals Jiu-Jitsu like tripod sweep works at the black belt level like it's like if you set it up like you're going to see these guys a lot of them are doing KNE Cuts X passes I you know I didn't see I didn't see did you see any any any Baron bolo from the black belts at grappling um I I might have seen I might have seen it at some Browns at like the lighter weights I I think I might have seen at the lighter weights yeah no I didn't I did not but uh no I did not but it I mean it doesn't mean yeah I did not and it that is it's very common and sometimes you'll see lots of them sometimes you won't but you're right the Jiu-Jitsu comes down to like very very basic fundamentals that opens up for a lot of flashy moves if you could master and really dive in and appreciate the fundamentals in Jiu-Jitsu just like any other sport the so we've got we're moving on to the next topic um the best and worst training Partners you're stuck with well I can tell you the worst uh the worst training partners are the smelly ones like that's just that's fact like that's that that's facts like I don't you know I don't care what rank you are if you smell bad like I'm not I'm not training with you so that's that's the worst at least in my book uh how about you coach yeah I mean as far as hygiene bro uh you you know anybody watching this wherever you are
at I can't I can't emphasize how important it is to make sure you come to class uh you know clean and showered and I canot emphasize how much you should take care of your uniform your ghee or your rashguard or whatever it is you're wearing you know uh I can't emphasize how much that is you know and for anybody who's ever trained with somebody that was not practicing good hygiene or you know sweating throughout the day and didn't shower before coming coming into to work to the gym you are doing them such a disservice I cannot tell you I cannot tell you like you know that's like you're in public and you're with one of your friends their zippers open and you don't tell them you're in public with one of your friends and they got something on their nose or face and you don't tell them I mean if if you're training partner you don't have to be friends has a odor or something like that it's very important you let them know maybe it can't be remedied right at that moment but you have to let them know and and I uh yeah I and sometime and I mean imagine imagine somebody coming to the gym and they have a odor or a bad smell or whatever it is the G is dirty or they didn't shower for for months and weeks and years and they love jiu-jitsu and they think everybody hates them because they don't want to roll with them they don't want to be around them but really nobody told them that you have they have a smell so I I agree to that another another category of worst training Partners is uh is like uh um have you read the book uh choose your enemies wisely Patrick Bet David nope okay yeah that's a really good book uh P choose your enemies wisy is a very very good book so like having enemies isn't a bad thing like you're one of my enemies because talk about deiva you've smashed my deah heiva for like years and years and years and years and I've been so so stubborn is it is it because it doesn't work like deliva I it hurts my knees dude like I can't like the fact that you play it it just Hur that out bad for your knees all right well it's bad for my knees I don't know what to I don't know what to tell you no so uh the best and worst training partner the worst training partner could be the best one and if you're if you're working on a specific strategy and you go in again and again and it doesn't work with this training partner they're actually helping you identify that this specific technique doesn't work and then now it's your responsibility with you and your coach to go back and say look I am working this and I'm trying very specifically what we worked on and I'm not getting anywhere so that training partner like you know you for me and you know other students for other students um they could be a very very big resource for you because they don't care what you're working they're trying to bring their aame and you're working on something else and um so they could be a big resource in helping you really expedite your learning curve uh by shutting it down again and again yeah and and we T we talked talk about that a lot with the kids right like you know you've got I I had a conversation with a parent uh just last week they're like hey little man is he's not being aggressive enough what do I do and and and I know the kid he did our he did our summer program last year sweet kid good heart doesn't want to hurt anyone and I you know talking to Dad I said you're dealing this the same thing with my daughter okay she doesn't want to hurt anyone she's here to have fun you want to make sure it stays fun um and you want to you know you don't want to tell them be more aggressive be more violent right because that's not necessarily Behavior you want to uh encourage what you do want to encourage is you're trying to simulate actual combat and and you you need to you want to create like you want to create this live we call it feedback right that's why Jiu-Jitsu is one of the best self-defense uh martial arts in the world contrary to what Mr Justin is saying on uh on YouTube at the moment you know so but uh you want to you want to make sure you give that live feedback because if you you know Scarlet will like get Mount and then let someone roll her over cuz she feels bad she's winning too too uh uh for too long right and I've seen that with other kids as well or they don't want to hurt someone with a hard takedown so um that you're being a good teammate by preparing them for bullying by preparing them for um I can't tell you how I mean you've said this before some of the training that we go through um yeah I mean like I I feel more beat up at the end of most classes than I do at tournaments you know largely unless it's like unless I'm going in the absolutes against some cave troll right like but like that is um you know that is you're creating that you're simulating that feedback um to where like to where like that muscle memory comes into play so you want to you know and that's I think you're being a good teammate and sometimes to the point people think oh are you mad at me are you upset me like no I'm I'm it's my job to get you better and it does you don't get better if I just kind of like baby you and and cuddle you all the time when you get started when you're just getting started you know fine different diff totally different game fresh white belts you kind of need to nurture them like a Seedling right but like once you got some once you're getting stripes on there and then blues and up like it's it's this is what we do this is what makes it this is this is the art um this is the art so I I do want to uh normally we do these at the end justtin I don't know Justin is still watching Jiu-Jitsu is the worst self-defense fighting in the world and that's facts so Justin I'm going to out a limb and based on your verbiage I'm going to say you're 1819 maybe 21 I'll give you 21 I'll give you 2122 um throw in the comments what you believe the best self-defense fighting is and right I swear on my life if you answer with crab Mah you're discredited as an authority so I'll just answer that right now so um go ahead and I'll give you a chance to respond to that coach do you have anything to say to to Mr Justin's uh self-defense worst fighting in the I like I don't know how these comments are still happening but what do you have to say to Mr Justin's comment um yeah he might be like a a gamer who who plays with his fingers all the time but I don't think he very likely doesn't know anything about martial arts now if he if he said Jiu-Jitsu wasn't the best against multiple attackers [ __ ] well of course okay you'd get my attention but uh yeah he doesn't know anything about anything so yeah maybe he's like 12 or 13 yeah I I don't know I don't know hard hard to say so I'm waai on response from uh from my man yeah but as far as um uh you know our conversation about um you know the kids and adults um you know it's actually been my
experience and I've seen this many times many many times the quietest sweetest most timid kids end out to be like the the toughest most Relentless athletes yeah and yeah I've seen that so many times I can't tell you like you know if you have a little girl that a little girl or young kid that is training and they're kind of afraid to hurt somebody and you know you can you can see it they they don't know how to turn it on and like you know really you know put the pressure on their their teammates um you there's nothing you can do about that you know like you said like the the goal is to teach them get them familiar with these positions so if they have to use it in self-defense they've been there before and they know what to do and as they get older like we have one of our students that was in the kids class and she she uh she was like uh 10 or 11 and she would make uh boys cry all the time and she was so quiet she was like she just look at you like that's a peaceful girl that's such a quiet reserved girl and she wasn't Animated she wasn't loud and you know she could just she's one of those kids that you kind of forget they're there they're so quiet and they blend in but when she was training there was a side to her that was emotionless but it was very very physical and it was very tough and she would make boys cry all the time all the time and just like you know you kind of have to let the girl go who's not really doesn't really want to hurt somebody you can't really coach them through that so much the girl who's actually doing what you're asking them to putting heavy pressure on top you know controlling the head and making somebody like pay for uh for making a mistake in jiujitsu you you kind of they're doing what they're told so they don't know how to put the gas pedal and control it like go all the way up and all the way down so uh so I would say um you kind of have to let it run its course and just keep them training so so we've got a uh you know moving on to our next topic here and it said you know we're gonna talk about jiujitsu as a cult so a lot of people come in or is Jiu-Jitsu a cult is the question a lot of people come in from from other activities right um they'll come in from uh like a pickup let's say that it's a pickup basketball game or maybe they played hockey or like beer league hockey is another one or just like something a little bit maybe whether organized or unorganized but not nearly as formal and so you know and you'll have schools you know there there are different uh portions of um schools that have uh uniform policies there are schools that have white ghee only policies like you're only allowed to wear a white ghee uh you have schools that are no ghee only you have a school you know so like there's different um rigid you know kind of policies or or uh uh rules that they have in place and people are like oh man that's that's a cult I just want to be you know you start talking to Americans and they're like like don't touch my freedoms well okay but I mean everyone's got rules right we have you have guidelines and you have standards you know like your freedom you know if you're if you're like a peace love and and wellness but you don't believe in showering because the water's bad for you like that's going to go directly against that's going to go directly against our uh you know our policy of like good hygiene right um so so what do what would you say and there's a couple of them we can and and if you guys are watching this what are some cultic I'm curious what are some cultic generically cultic behaviors of Jiu-Jitsu because I I'm also gonna tie in things like uh I'm gonna bring apple and Facebook and uh and uh Google into into the conversation here in a second so what are some cultic behaviors or are habits that Jiu-Jitsu players um you know exhibit so what do you what do you think about that coach let's start there yeah um like it's not my job to really uh parent you parent you give you uh uh marital advice it's not my job to like give you Financial advice and I think that because uh martial arts instructors are such an authority and they they have such an impact on the on the personal development of students lives that um it's common you hear that the instructor tries to kind of take control like a like a obsessive or abusive obsessive or paranoid boyfriend or girlfriend that wants to control everything you do and the truth is is that like we're a vehicle to you to help you teach you to use your body uh and training to complement everything else that you do like we're going to help you on the matap and it's not our job to tell you what to do with your wife with your husband you know and I think that you know that is that is where a cult comes in where where you you're like you get controlled and uh students can get very very vulnerable and you know the the the Outburst come like you know when you jits is very very very emotional activity like it's very very emotional and you let a lot of good and bad emotions out and sometimes that comes in the mean in the means of like you know what I've been drinking for a long time I've been binge drinking or I've been smoking or I've been doing stuff that I should not be doing and you talk to your instructor about it and I think sometimes the instructor or coach or whoever could take that and kind of say I want to take you know I believe they should be coming from a good place like I want to help them give the get them some advice but it could easily turn into like coaches trying to control control the students higher ranks trying to control them and that makes for a cultish uh atmosphere you know because a lot of good change happens we know that and some people just don't know how to handle they don't know how to handle the the authority and uh position of authority that we're in to help other people they kind of like abuse it and they take it from teaching them jiu-jitsu physical mental discipline to well you got to do whatever I say and that's a cult in my opinion so yeah and when you start you know when you start having uh you know I guess like in a true cult we'll take what was that dude what was that actual cult in um where was Texas it was yeah what was the one in Texas that I'm thinking of it was like uh oh where was it David something yeah yeah so that was like a like a legit cult like controlled you know what that like their schedule of like what they did during the day and the compound they couldn't leave like what uh there's a there's a the fixer uper shows out of there Waco out of Waco Texas um wo Texas yeah and then they like that was that was like an extreme case right um and then you know we when we had coach uh Professor Greg on from Gracie Baja Northville you know he he you mentioned there's a lot of good positive life changes that come from um from Jiu-Jitsu and just the environment the team itself I mean the team is is is arguably argue I could argue that that the team is the sing is almost greater than the art itself you know like the people and the support system that come from that you know he uh he had a student who um you know it literally saved his life like he was on the verge of committing suicide uh Jiu-Jitsu you know helped him get back to a better place mentally and uh with his mental health with that you know so and he thanked Greg and Greg was like dude I'm just you did you did the work I'm just kind of here Prov again providing the uh the Avenue right the Catalyst uh if you will and so so you you talk to these people and they and they develop sure they develop relationships a lot and we I personally like to stay in touch with you know I've got like I know several of our members um they've got new kids and they've got upcoming kids and uh and so that's just kind of part of of being a coach but but you you're you're you mentioned the control aspect your control ends pretty much at the door you know like your control ends at the door um unless it starts to affect inside the mat you know so I I know I remember one uh you remember the scenario we had uh we enrolled a we enrolled a dude and he like we I think we posted like a welcome post on Facebook like hey let's welcome this guy I don't even remember his name like I don't know I don't remember what and then come to find out like his ex-wife or soon to be e someone called and like he had it was a current member like he she had a restraining order against him um it was like like he was like abusive and you know come to find out like this guy was like like a lot of bad things that we had no idea like there's no way we could know just from one standpoint and she was currently a member with us and so now we've got to make a decision right either let this guy on the team and and say to well we have to accept all or you know like we we've got decisions to make here how do you draw how do you draw that line because we've that's a situ like that has happened at least twice that I can remember possibly a third time uh since we've been in business where do you draw the line with that yeah like you know the Jiu-Jitsu Academy is my house it's your house it's uh I was telling uh one of our blue and purples I'm like you're here multiple days a week this is your house so the house belongs to everybody and inside the house we have to protect the people inside the house so if somebody happens to come into our house all of us and they're living in that house so we have to protect them from strangers and at that point you know for us it was an easy call and and you know there's um yeah you know with domestic uh issues there's always two sides to a story you know some people say there's his side her side and the truth and but everybody interprets it a little differently but the fact is it's not personal and you know we asked the other we asked the person visiting say look you know what appreciate you coming in but it's probably best that you find another place uh there might be a conflict of interest nothing against you nothing against the other person but you know we draw the line by saying you've committed to us and we're going to do everything in our power uh in on and off the mat with our capacity to help you stay on this journey for you know to get uh Stronger to get U mentally physically in all areas of your life yeah yeah we've done that yeah we've done that I just remembered a firm third example as well and um and and and I like that you pointed that out you know you protect your own you protect you know those who come to that that house I think that's a good example um you know I've got Co so coach we're about seven minutes over I'm gonna I'm gonna since this is you know gonna be a question more directed at you um do we have time to to go into what uh briefly intro of what Jiu-Jitsu training's like at Ramadan or do you want to save that next week during actual actual Ramadan I I'll kind of leave the ball on your court before we kind of check out some of these comments yeah yeah um we could uh yeah we can go over the comments we like next week will be our first uh Tuesday is our first day of fasting so we will actually start next week and hopefully we'll have something uh posted by then for our viewers but uh yeah we'll probably talk about it next week and maybe we can check out the comments All right so com got a couple comments and and and I don't know Squad 177 says count to 10 and I'll tell you I don't know what that means I literally have no idea what that means the internet is such a wild Place dude like like you know I I remember in drivers here's what I think about as the internet right like in driver Zed they're like people get this false sense of like confidence and they're like you can't you know you would never just take your buggy or your cart in a shopping store and push someone out of the way and cut in front of them in in the line he's like but people do that all the time and they're vehicle and he's like so you want to be careful not to like get this F and I'm like 16 I was like yeah that makes sense and the Internet is just a magnified version of that right like it's like this magnified like dude like just the trolls that happen right like and you're like you would never ever talk to somebody that way in like in real life us I mean usually um and uh and it's just it's man it's wild it's like one big like it's a matrix dude it's kind of a matrix a little bit like like it's like this fake pseudo World a little bit um but uh and then I'm gonna I'm G to check because they're not showing up on this eam but I'm gonna check our Facebook I think that's uh that's it as far as the uh the comments we got here uh I'm checking Facebook right now and yours popped up talking about crypto crypto's at an alltime high which leads me to believe the dollars at an all-time low is that the cycle like the last Bull Run list I don't I I kept up with crypto for like like on the last Bull Run and I'm firmly convinced that's where Mo like outside of like covid that's where most of my gray hair came from it was [ __ ] was so stressful like it would up and down like I'm like just I'm a believer of it like let me just say I like I believe crypto there is a place for crypto 50 years from now um but I'm not TR dude I'm I just don't have I don't have the mental strength to to day trade it um you know kudos to kudos to those who do I just don't have the the fortitude with it um that's all yeah that's all the comments we've got on uh on on Facebook and YouTube so guys do us uh do us a favor if you're watching this if you're on YouTube uh what is it subscribe on YouTube if you're this is not on Instagram yet it will be uh you know go ahead and Subs uh what is it Instagram follow us on Instagram like us on Facebook um obviously we've got you know we we are Metro ji- jitu we do kickboxing now though uh kickboxing for kids and adults we have a summer summer program lots dude so I've got dozens of calls back to make for our our five summer locations here including Canton Leonia Monroe Brighton and Southgate uh kid grades K through six so lots of cool that's a cool unique uh Avenue to introduce kids to Jiu-Jitsu through the summer and then what we're actually doing is where you know if they love Jiu-Jitsu because we don't Havey in all five of those cities yet so we're referring them out like you know in Leonia I'm kind of referring them towards towards Commonwealth in Brighton you know we've got like Freedom out that way you know the Canton Canton location well Canton will we will have a spot um in row you know coach Todd who we saw grappling Industries this weekend you know in Monroe Jiu-Jitsu so lots of uh you know we we if you're training Jiu-Jitsu we're happy if it's with us cool helps us as well but ultimately swear you know the growing the art is is what is really the whole point of of what we're doing here so coach you got anything to add before we uh before we log off no that's it man all right well we'll see you guys uh next week so coach we will but I mean same time so fasting starts Tuesday so are we doing the same time next week then uh probably not because we will be fasting Tuesday so we might uh we might make an alteration uh to the schedule but we'll probably stay posted for it then guys stay tuned for for what it is and appreciate your support as always we'll see you guys on the M on the
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