- All right this is what happens. Yeah. Okay. Now, we're actually going live and I'm glad I caught this before we got into the questions. You guys just missed all of our banter about our early morning episode, but you guys caught it on coach Mohammed's page. So that's the benefit you get for following him. So we've got, we got some questions. I don't know if we're going to be able to get, to all of these, but let's, tell you what you choose your favorite one first. I know my favorite one.
- Let's start with yours. I'm still waking up.
- Okay.
- I'm in slow motion.
- All right. Okay, All right. So let's do, let's do, let's start with how much do I need to train? That's an easy one.
- Okay.
- That's a really easy one. How much do I need to train?
- So,
- Jiu Jitsu, we're talking about Jiu Jitsu.
- Jiu Jitsu, yeah. I mean, whenever I say the word Jiu Jitsu obviously our goal as coaches, we just want people to be active.
- Sure.
- Alright. We know, probably the best activity that they could do to be active. You and I know the benefits of Jiu Jitsu are like, they far outweigh going to the gym and lifting weights. You and I know that, but when I say Jiu Jitsu, I say fitness or just exercise, but how much do I need to train? I would say, if you take going to Planet Fitness Crunch or Raise The Bar.
- I really like raise the bar. Like they're not even paying me to say that. I just really like them
- Yeah, it's a good gym. So like, if you said, all right, man, I'm going to get on this routine and I'm going to go twice a week. Are you going to get in shape? A little bit.
- I mean, you'll get some results, a lot of it's your diet, but yeah.
- Yeah. I mean, two days a week, whether you go do cardio, whether you lift weights, if you just go two days a week, I mean, you can get some results. You'll probably start to feel better in your body and like, it's going to be asking for a little bit more. So I would say at a minimum, at a minimum to make some changes in your life, physically, emotionally, mentally, financially. Cause they all work together. Right? I would say at least three days a week.
- They and like, just exercise, like physical exercise or Jiu Jitsu itself?
- Well, I mean, at a minimum, like you can get the job done. It's just going to take so much longer. I'd say two days a week, but you know what to be realistic to make some changes in your life and to have them be impacted because of Jiu Jitsu, I'd say three days a week, two days you can get the job done.
- Okay.
- But at a minimum, I think, you know, like anything else, three days a week is probably probably the best place to start. What do you think?
- Yeah. Well the more, the better, I mean the more, the better, I always think of it as like I was talking with a parent yesterday, and they're like, yeah, we can get one day in for their kid, I was like, okay all right. I was like one day a week, well, that means you got six days to unlearn it. You know, you got six days to unlearn. And Jiu Jitsu is not, Jiu Jitsu's like, working out is different than Jiu Jitsu 'cause is working out it's I mean, there's some mental aspect to it, but Jiu Jitsu is far more, far more mental, like by far, So like the cognitive, the cognitive part of it is huge. And so I would say two days really, just so that like you can start to see improvement, which will help you to continue to train. Like it's like, even if you're training two days a week, you will see improvement. But it's gonna be a little bit demoralizing when people who start after you training five days a week surpass you, I saw that happen pretty much, like my entire Jiu Jitsu career, like people would start after me or people would come, I've been training like four or five years and they'd be training like one and they were just physical freaks. And then they would be giving me trouble and I was like, well, what's going on? But I also trained like two days a week and they train more. So.
- Isn't that annoying,
- Very annoying.
- when you're like you're training, and you've been here so long and then like some new people come in and you know they start to put in like six months or a year it's like Oh my God, I freaking stink, Cause I can't handle dealing with these people. Who've been here just like a year half the time as me. that's been so annoying.
- Yeah, it's annoying, but I'm a testament. and I say this, like, I'm going to brag on my unathleticism for a second. Like I'm a testament of like where, you keep showing up and, and that's where Jiu Jitsu thrives. you know, those people over the years, those people came and went.
- Yeah
- And now like we're in Downriver which is like, meat head wrestling country. And like, I remember when we first opened, the size of these humans that were coming in here, I was like, dude, like where are they coming from? So like, and now, you know, it really doesn't matter the size. Cause granted I've got 13 years is what it took to like, not get manhandled, but even after like four or five years, it was really tricky. Like, cause I just didn't, I wasn't athletic. I wasn't super physical. And so that's why when parents have like really nerdy kids and
- Yeah
- They're like, I had parent last night, they're like oh he's all skin and bones. I was like, great.
- Yeah
- Like that's like, you don't understand how perfect that is for Jiu Jitsu.
- You know who, who sticks out to me when you say that is little Camden.
- Yeah absolutely. He's gotten good.
- Yeah And he's what is he like, 12?
- He's probably 14 now.
- Yeah. I remember when one of our students came in, when he first came in, his son was hiding behind the chair, and wouldn't even be included in the conversation, you know?
- Oh really?
- Yeah it was at GNC, we were doing enrollments at GNC and he was literally hiding behind the chair. He was so antisocial and now, like he's still young, you know, 14 years old and he's in the adult class now, but now he has like, confidence to just stand up and be around adults. And for someone like him, he's come so long.
- Yeah. That's a perfect example.
- And he wasn't like an athletic kid to begin with.
- Right.
- So yeah. Just show up,
- Just keep showing up right on.
- There's more to that but that's that's for another day.
- Right, Right. Okay, so on the topic. that was one of your questions. So, what's your opinion on ADD or ADHD?
- First of all, I believe ADHD, is all caused by this and the video games. I honestly believe that it's all caused by this, and the video game. So when you talk about ADHD and you talk about all that, there's a couple of things you have to have to make that happen. A busy, busy, busy mom and dad, as Americans we work our asses off from morning till night. All right. So yeah, people internationally think you come to this country and then as soon as you get off the plane, here's a bag of money for you. Here's some bags for you,
- They still believe that?
- They still believe it.
- Even with what they see on the news?
- Oh he's from America, they got money. So, moms and dads in America, like both mom and dads are working and grinding. So as a culture, we work a lot. That takes away from being around the kids. So I believe a couple of things you have to be in place. Mom and dad have to be working a lot. Mom and dad don't have as much physical time to give the kids. What's the supplement? the phones and the video games, and that the kids are amazing, amazing at focus and dialing in on very specific stuff for hours at a time. So when I hear ADHD, I believe it's all caused by video games and phones. So that's my initial. When you ask me what about ADHD? What is it? Is it like, oh my God, you know, my son, you don't, you don't just get it. It's a learned behavior. I have gone through periods. It's like where I'm a prisoner to my phone.
- I think we all have. Where we have been caught as like, and I've gotten better with it, but I'll like, I've literally gone to post something in the group or post something on the page. And like, before I can hit that I was like frick, you like I'll get caught. But like I'm self-aware enough to realize I got caught, but sometimes it's like, be like four or five minutes I could just scroll on, and I was like, frick, you know?
- Like, so, I mean, what's your opinion on that? And I have mine, so, okay. A kid has ADHD. And one of the things I learned about a conference I went to years ago is like its bullshit. ADHD, They want to label you. The doctors want to label you and immediately they want to get you on these medications. Right?
- Sure
- So, somehow in the medical system, there's some type of like evolution and flowing of prescribing and how the medical system benefits, to labeling and putting somebody down the path of ADHD.
- I can't tell you why, but I mean, I agree. I don't believe ADD ADHD exists, as an condition, as an illness? I mean, you're going to tell me literally ... half of our families who come in here, and they say their kids either diagnosed, or undiagnosed with ADD ADHD. Half the population? was half the population... because I think what we need to do, is we need to define what that is. And if you're going to define a kid like, like reading some of the symptoms, energetic, trouble focusing, like super high. Those are children. That's a child.
- That's exactly what I say to the parents who come in, you know, my son won't sit still, he's always active. He's got a lot of energy and I'm like, well, you know, it sounds like a normal kid.
- Yeah, that's a child and what they want to hear. Like, so I think we all, like in 2020 we realized just how, terrible adults were, at sitting still for 8 hours in front of a screen, like to be quote unquote productive. So we can talk about how productive the eight hour work day actually is at a later time. But like, you're dealing with something, it's hard for a doctor to say, and I don't even know if they're legally allowed to say this, but like, if you come to the doctors, and say hey my kid's having trouble focusing. I had this conversation with a parent yesterday, She was almost in tears yesterday because I see him struggling to focus and my first my first thought is like, cool, what's the teacher doing? Like, how are you teaching?
- Yeah
- How are you teaching? and I was like half tongue in cheek. I was like, oh, that's strange. He doesn't have trouble focusing my Jiu Jitsu class.
- And it's way more demanding.
- So it's wild. I think a lot of that is played on, like, if you're dealing with, The teachers, like that's, it's the skill of the teachers and the techniques they're using. And it's also like the doctor can't blame it on the parents. Like, what you said at the beginning, you're like, Hey, it's caused by busy lifestyle, too busy for the kids. Amanda and I were having this conversation and I'm hyper focused on I'm hyper committed to, spending time with my kids and whatnot. Even I'm guilty. I'm like Scarlett's asking and I'm like, come on. And it's like, David, please pay attention to her you know? So like that, and that happens regular. And like, I, you know, they pretty much follow me, like little ducklings when she's not at school. Like they just kind of come here, they get fired up . They follow me. Like I'm around my kids a lot.
- Yeah
- but to say, it's not a popular opinion to say that ADD, ADHD it's a lifestyle problem. One it's natural. It's natural for your kid not to focus, but two it's kind of a lifestyle problem. The answer is not to start prescribing kids these drugs. That's what they are, at eight years old.
- Yeah
- Like, and remember that, remember.
- It's essentially like speed.
- Yeah. And you remember the first time we had summer camp, they're like, okay. Mom's like so he needs his meds at noon. And I'm like, not going to drug a kid. he needs his meds at noon for, you know, whatever. I was like, cool. Do I have to give them to them? She's like, oh you don't have to, you just have to deal with him if you don't. I said, sweet, alright, I'll hang on to 'em but you know, so we didn't give him this medication the entire summer.
- Parents would've never believed that
- Yeah I was like, I gave them all back to her, I was like, here you go. He didn't need them. And she was like, wow, I don't know how you guys do it. You know? But I don't think the answer is, I think it's natural. And I think each kid's different, and it's been around, we're trying to label it. It's like alcoholism, just someones naturally born. And there's nothing you can do. You just like develop a need to go drink a fifth of Jack. Like I'm just here. And then I catch this disease. No, you go and it's a lifestyle. Like it's an active sort of choice. It's an active choice to address that ADD, ADHD. Next question. If you guys have any questions, put them in the comments as well. Stacey's got one, it says, I believe there's an chemical imbalance that people might have that gives them problems focusing. But I believe the imbalance is never strong enough where it actually causes a life problem where medication is needed with all the digital screens simulation we have created. We have created what we call ADHD. It's the IDs and parents are making this problem. Yeah, of course. Exactly what we just said. Like when you're conditioned, did you know it's illegal? maybe someone fact check me on this, TV commercials have to be a minimum length. like it has to be like... you can't do a ten second TV commercial it's against the rules. because it would be too effective. Like if you were to show three 10-second commercials, that would subliminally influence you and your attention way more than one 30 second commercial
- Yeah well, look at Superbowl. It gets so expensive, but that's part of the reason,
- Right, Right, Right.
- Those 10, 15 second commercials.
- All right and ...
- Did we answer Stacy's question?
- She, she was just saying, it wasn't a question more she's like I believe it's a chemical imbalance. She said, I believe certain people, essentially what she's saying is more people may struggle to focus than others. None of which demands a medicine. And a lot of it is caused by your, attraction to your, your time spent in front of a screen. If you look at kids' shows, even social media, we know when we make videos, when you guys see a video from us, how long do we have to catch someone's attention,
- Seconds
- Seconds. You have like three seconds or five seconds to catch someone's attention,
- Yeah
- Five seconds? And then we're surprised, when you or your kid can't sit you know, for like one hour two hour lecture or one hour or two hour seminar, one hour two hour meeting or whatever. Like that's just a state.
- Yeah. Well, I mean just in closing with that and the ADHD as adults, when we get older and we can not focus, and we have like, you know, we have the ADHD as adults, it comes down to one word, it comes down to focus and what are we working on
- Priorities? Absolutely, yeah.
- And we're trying to do too much stuff at one time. So as adults, if we look at it as like, look at adults and kids, we're trying to do too many things at one time. So what we need to do as adults
- I agree
- Is slow down, really prioritize what is important for me and my future right now. And that's what I should be doing today. Right? There's a lot of things we could be doing, but, you know, we just got to chunk away and do one task and one activity at a time to help meet whatever our goal is.
- So Mindy says on that same topic, this was a good topic. What do you do when your child comes to you though, and feels like it's a constant struggle to focus. So essentially he's coming to me worried about it. I'll never have my kids tested. I don't want to ignore that he's coming to me asking for help. So I believe that again, depends on the area of the field. So, I believe as coaching, like when we coach ... coach Jiu Jitsu, one thing I really like to know is what each person's background, what their life experiences, what they do for a living, whatever. So coach Muhammad, who's the supplement guy, fitness guy. Like he's gonna understand things like, when I talk about doing this, he's going to understand, I was like, it's just like an upright row. He's going to understand that, Someone who doesn't work out they're gonna be like, what are you talking about? But if I go like this and someone's a hunter, I'm gonna say, it's just like pulling them back a bow, you know? So you have to kind of speak their language a little bit and say, you know, if he's having trouble focusing. So let's say it's math, let's say it's math. I'm gonna say, okay, well here, like depending on what the math is like get food involved. Like, okay, we did this yesterday in the after school program. If I have half a pizza.
- Yeah.
- And I cut it down the middle, or if I have a whole pizza and I cut it down the middle and I give you a slice of me a slice how much do each of us have? One half? Okay. Now if I do it again, how much we each of this have?
- Quarter
- Yeah And just things like that to kind of make it ... we were literally at the school yesterday, the teachers at the school, I'm not going to name the school. They're like, as she was sweet, we had to wait a few minutes. She was helping the kid with a problem. I was like, you're such an angel, you know, that's nice of you to help them. She's like, ah, yeah, I can help them with the old math. I don't know anything about those new math with the circles and squares that they're doing. We were all just laughing. So like, it goes back to the teach, not saying you're a bad teacher Mindy, but like, it goes back to the teaching and communicate in a language in which they can understand, because I guarantee there's something they can focus on. People focus on what they're interested in. Guaranteed it I know Bentley, you start talking to him about Pokemon cards, He's going to perk up.
- Yeah
- In fact, I know he was like, we were talking about it in cards the other day. So like what they're interested in make it interesting.
- Yeah and you know, letting kids know that you are patient with what they're going through at that time.
- A hundred percent.
- Yeah. So my daughter lost her keys last night at a sporting event. And she didn't want anybody to stay with her because she didn't want to burden anybody. And you know, you know, just as parents, we had to remind her, she's really upset. It's okay. Like this kind of stuff happens. It wasn't the time
- I lose stuff all the time.
- Yeah, It wasn't the time to like, to yell at her and be like, you know, what is your problem? You're forgetting stuff.
- Yeah
- That wasn't the time. It was the time to say it's okay. She was going through a tough time and be there for her. And then when I get the right opportunity, like picking my shots I'ma really hit her with it. But you know, when they're going through it, you just gotta be patient and understand that you know, as they grow up from age from week to week, month to month, year to year, they're going through a lot of changes in the world. And it's a lot to absorb for a kid now a days
- I agree and I'll also add really, really end with this. When when someone gets labeled, that becomes part of their identity. And then it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. You know what? I need you to take these pills buddy. because you have AD, you have this condition and you have trouble focusing, okay. So it's not your fault, but you have trouble focusing. You have trouble focusing. And I know you have trouble focusing. So it's because you have trouble focusing. What's that kid going to think
- I got trouble focusing.
- I got trouble focusing. So like, it's not my fault. You know? Like, and regardless of whatever the meds do or do not do I've been going heavy on, on the brain and the mind man while it's not like a name it and claim it thing, but like what you believe can play a huge part in your reality,
- A hundred percent.
- If you believe, if I believe I'm broke, you're going to make decisions that keep you broke.
- Right
- If I believe I have trouble focusing, you're going to make decisions that, aren't conducive to being like hyper-focused.
- Yeah.
- So hope that helps. If you guys have any, we kind of beat that to a pulp. So if you have any other questions, you know, we'll answer them in the comments later, you choose the next one Coach. We won't be able to get to all of these. We've got like eight more, chose the big ones.
- We'll do this one. This was one that came through you, right?
- Yeah. Yeah. I mean it's yeah.
- Okay This was asked to David Fox as a Jiu Jitsu black belt. What's the number one Self-defense? Can you help us elaborate on that question?
- Yeah. Self-defense meaning like, you know we get this all time. Like we talked about self-defense I believe the number one martial art is Jiu Jitsu.
- Okay.
- But number one, personal self-defense is like a Glock 19.
- Okay. Like period. Now the problem is, it's called a force multiplier for a reason. like if you're in a real situation, there's a lot of situations. I've said this. I avoid conflict like the plague.
- Yeah.
- Cause you just, there's a lot of things that can happen, out of your control. Like as reckless and as chaotic as this room may seem, when there's like 50 dudes in here grappling it's a controlled environment.
- Yeah.
- There's mats. There's rules. There's pads. A lot of that doesn't exist in a, in a self-defense scenario. So a firearm is like the number one, because especially like, you don't know what, if someone else has a knife or whatever. So, but a lot of people use that as a cop out to, I don't need Jiu Jitsu, cause I have a firearm. The intangible benefits and things of Jiu Jitsu, they're gonna, you're going to be situationally aware. You're going to be able to have the confidence to verbally.. I think that's huge. Like just the, like you use the term a lot, verbal judo.
- Yeah.
- Like just, just deescalate the situation. Okay, because even if, even if you rightfully use a firearm, like legally, and you didn't use a prematurely and all that, the followings that will happen. You know, they teach in CPL class. Like you use it properly. But if you kill somebody with a firearm, like a lot of people have to move, because it affects them socially. People just, they treat you different. If you're on the news, self-defense, you know, I shoot two invaders like that. Like they actually had to move because their friends treated them different. Like there's this huge, huge, huge impact that, I think people don't understand when they start waving it around like, oh, I've got a gun.
- Yeah. Well, you know, like one thing that a attorney told me a while back is if you and a friend go outside, like in front of the driveway, in the back of the driveway or something like that, like an average driveway, one person's at the garage, the other person's at the street and you're throwing a ball. You can legally pull out a gun and shoot somebody, if you perceive them to be threatening your life. And legally you're not breaking any law. So it's not like we have to be this close and I pull out a gun and shoot him like legally, you could be like, I think it's at least 30 feet.
- Tough to prove that though like it's tough to ... I'm not the lawyer. You got a lot more lawyers in there, but you have to be able to prove that your life was in danger.
- Right.
- Yeah. Right. But the point is, is that like a gun in self-defense is such a big responsibility.
- Huge, huge
- Yeah. So at 25 legally I was able to carry a gun, and it would have been.
- Is that, is that the minimum? No, I can't be
- It's 21.
- It's well, you can own one 18.
- I think 21 you can carry it.
- Okay.
- Well, I'll tell you what I don't know about you, but at 25 years old, I'd say 21, 22, 23. It would've been a bad idea to give me a gun to carry around legally.
- Yeah.
- It would have been...
- Its a huge responsibility.
- I was not, emotionally responsible enough to carry a gun everywhere I went, I would have been definitely. I would have been an impulsive person. And I don't think, I don't think the public, this is just my opinion.
- They don't, I mean, it's hard to put an age on it, but I don't think it's fair to blanketly say at 21 years old everybody should be legally carried to a gun. There has to be, like I just don't think that's a responsible way. And I'm not saying you have to be 25. I'm just saying there's a lot of 21 year olds that carry. But I know they're like, people that I know, you shouldn't be carrying a gun. You're not responsible enough.
- Yeah. Well, and that goes, like we talked about this a while ago, the, I feel like the maturity the overall mental maturity of adults is older. Right. I think in the old world, like, you know, even the middle east a thousand years ago.
- Yeah.
- 18 year olds were had families,
- Yeah
- And they were providers of that family and a like literally
- That's fair.
- And they weren't like so they were much, I believe were much more responsible. Granted the life expectancy was a little bit shorter, but much more responsible humans at a younger age. What changed?
- Well, a lot
- The upbringing, the society, the expectation, like imagine like realistically
- Expectation of a man.
- Honestly, like honestly, if every, if it was just culturally expected, culturally expected that every man, was going to either start paying pretty serious rent to his parents or move out on his own at 18 and a half.
- Yeah.
- What would that preparation look like? Like now instead of middle school and high school, and like, you're worried about all the BS that comes with that. And you're like, bro, you need some skills to provide for yourself. Like we're going to, we're going to teach these things. That used to happen. Not as much anymore. I feel like I do feel like there's a revolution coming back.
- So if you had the label on one technique, what would it be? If you had to label.
- Take downs
- Take downs?
- If you know no Jiu Jitsu, and you can get on top of somebody you're doing better than most.
- Okay. So David says, number one, Jitsu Jitsu, black belt Jiu Jitsu doing self defense, David says take downs, which I absolutely love. I mean, I love, you know, it's such a rush, I would say, like some type of a closed guard work
- Sure. Also it's also really Yeah. I mean, either it's a close second, it's a close second, in my opinion, because closed guard, you get taken down. You're okay. If you know what you're doing and closed guard, like you get, you know, someone wrestles you, they take you down. If you can get back to close guard you're okay.
- Yeah, closed guard, open guard. Some type of...
- Would you pull guard in the street?
- No way. Never, never, ever. Yeah. If I was in the street fight, last thing that I would ever do is pull guard and if for some reason I was on my back I'm going immediately.
- Doing whatever you can,
- I'm going immediately to tear, tear their knees and their ligaments apart. If I hit the floor, that would be my number one goal, setting up attacking their feet
- That would be vicious.
- Just a little bit, and they can't get up and walk away.
- Dude I know a buddy, I think I told you, like it was right down the street. I had one of these, I don't know they got in a scuffle and the dude just went around for like an outside reap
- Yeah
- And like figure forward and just cranked. And you just heard like a two by four snap, like, and he had the guy just scream the, I don't think anyone ever found out. But they like, he ran away that's ... you won't walk for a year. You won't, and that is so, yeah, that's, that's really solid second. All right, so you chose that one. So, we've got,
- We gotta get this one
- Let's kind of talk, so relationship what's. Yeah. So relationships with your teammates in Jiu Jitsu, your Jiu Jitsu teammates. Let's talk about what's the question specifically of, so let's talk about that.
- The question that came into coach Mohammad can you talk on, like in Jiu Jitsu, it's all about like comradery and team. And I was having this discussion with, my cousin, Omar and you know, he played college football, college basketball, and I was talking to him about the comradery that you build in Jiu Jitsu versus other sports, you know, like basketball, football, other stuff. And I'm like, you know what, it's just not the same. With Jiu Jitsu versus other sports. And then we got to talking a little bit, and he's like, well man, you know, he started reminding me of the football days. And every position is an individual position, right? Like every position ultimately compliments moving the ball forward to score, right. They're all separate positions or separate skill positions. But you know, after talking to him, I would say one of the closest things is football to Jiu Jitsu. And we happened to be in football season, as far as you know, like the
- So boring
- The team, dude. you know,
- Gi Jiu Jitsu's boring to watch though I'll give you that. Gi Jiu Jitsu is very boring to watch.
- Fact. 30 Years ago, 25 years ago, when I first left, when I first said to myself, you know what. I'm going to be employed for myself. And that's just what I'm going to do. I'm going to open up my own business. I had no idea what I was doing. And I knew that's what I wanted to do. My number one goal, from opening up my own business. I want to be able to watch football on Sundays and just relax. Like that was my financial goal to sit back and watch football.
- I'm not dogging. To me it's super boring a lot, obviously, obviously a lot of people watch it.
- Okay. Well, that's why you're on your computer during Super Bowl.
- That is why bro.
- So relationships with teammates in Jiu Jitsu. So how are they formed? What kind of relationships do you have with people, and how far do they go? You know, that's kind of the question. So what's your personal opinion on, you've been training for 14, 13, 14 years?
- Probably 13, 09 is when I started.
- Okay.
- Maybe 12 actually.
- Okay. So 12, 13 years or whatever. So talk about, let's talk about the good, let's talk about the good, part of relationships that come with being involved in something for so long. Talk about the benefits, the good, and what can people like, what are some good things that can come out of sticking with something so long?
- Yeah. I mean, I wrote a blog a while back. It's probably actually still on our, well, I don't know if it's on our website, but it was like if I had to put a dollar value on, if I had to put a dollar value on your network of Jiu Jitsu, it would be minimum. We're assuming you stay in this for any real length of time, minimum $50,000. And then that's because like I've pointed to not just my partnership with coach Muhammad, but like countless others I've given the example. Like there were, there were contacts I made, through that, like to where I landed, like my largest client, or one of my largest clients. So like, so it's not just about the financial, but.
- Let me give a quick example of the financial.
- Yeah.
- We're in the locker room two days ago.
- Yeah, its a great example.
- Younger guy, younger guy is in the locker room after class kind of hanging out. I think he was taking notes or something. And we were talking about, I asked him what he did for work or whatever. And then, another older gentleman in his like 30's or 40's, you know, they just got to talking, and he didn't like where he was at. And the $18 an hour job, just was thrown on his lap with no experience necessary.
- Yeah They'll train you. They'll train you. And that's just an example.
- So yeah. That's the financial leads, and network that comes with Jiu Jitsu is, great.
- Yeah. And I'm going to tell you, there's no like, like this it's instant rapport, like deep rapport. So if I apply for a job and you're like, you know, you're an employer and you're looking at, okay, I played football, soccer and all these sports.
- Yeah
- You're not like, I want to talk to this dude right now. But if you're gonna apply for a job, you're like, Jiu Jitsu be like, call him right now. Bring him in. Like, if there's like.
- So for like equally, it would be like, you're doing this job interview and you see on the application that this guy's a division one basketball player, division one football player immediately you're like, whoa, that's like high level. Let me talk to this guy. If we just hear the word, that this guy or girl trains Jiu Jitsu, we're like, really, I want to talk to them. So I would say it's equal to like a collegiate athlete that has gone through that level of training. It's so intense. There's such a commitment that, you know, like I want to talk to him, if we just know they trained Jiu Jitsu like really? Where? How long? How long's he been training, Where's he training at? Let's let's talk to him.
- Because there's so many like Jiu Jitsu there's, there's so many positive traits and attributes that are,
- [Mohammad] Hi Jimmy, what's up
- That are acquainted with that. Like if you train Jiu Jitsu again, I'm going to assume for like some type of length of time, a couple of years, at least.
- Yeah
- And I'm gonna assume, not assume you are a hard worker.
- Yup.
- Period. You do have a certain base level of mental strength.
- Yep.
- Period. You do have a, you do know what it's like to experience failure and keep going. You do know what it's like to take it, to learn under somebody and take instruction. Like so all these things, I mean, that alone is going to like put you in the top 95 percentile for most jobs. Like those alone.
- So I'll give an example of how working under pressure translates from Jiu Jitsu to not Jiu Jitsu. So me and David are position training, right? So we're, we have a team that's going to a worlds next week. Right. So we're position training with David
- This week.
- This week. Right. So yeah. David's going Coach Debrill's going, Coach Ferris is going, coach Jimmy is going. So we have four people from our school that are going to the world championships. So I'm position training with David. And you know, he's got a bunch of rounds in, so he's already, he's already deep into his workout and he's pretty spent, so his job was to pass my guard. Right. So, and we're doing like, you know, short rounds. So we do the first round and coach David can't pass my guard. So we go back to back and, immediately,
- I think I know where this is going, I feel bad about it, but I think I know where its going.
- So immediately, like this just goes to show you how you have to learn to work under pressure. When we go again, in my mind, I'm thinking, oh my God, he's pissed off. I could tell, by the way he's moving, he's getting extra aggressive. He's putting heavy pressure on me. So internally I try not to let it show my face. I'm like, oh my God, he's bringing the heat man. And I just took a deep breath. I'm like, okay, just relax and focus on what you're supposed to be doing. So like the truth is man in life, like everybody, and every outside thing that you can't control is going to come at you super hard, and you got to learn to relax and you gotta learn to calm down. And you know, every day that I train is a lesson,
- Yeah, sure.
- And we talk about relationships in Jiu Jitsu, like you're coming at me and you're really, really going hard. And like, you're one of my best friends. So it's not like
- Yeah
- You're trying to kill me. It's like, you're trying to achieve your goal. And I have to achieve my goal and a relationship that's built with two people, that are not doing something personal. They're doing something physical and intellectual at the same time to benefit themselves without any ill harm towards each other is how a relationship is born.
- And you know, I read, I thought you were going to talk about ... I'm pretty sure I, I'm pretty sure I punched you yesterday. like I was diving for like the D'Arce and whatever, and your head was in the way I thought it was going to pass it. So I'm pretty sure I punched you. Your cheek, your face isn't?
- Yeah. That's from somebody else.
- Okay, all right.
- But that was the least of my worries. I'm like a punch is all I get fine, but no he didn't stop. He's coming at me a hundred percent. So.
- Then I, you know, I read a, Jiu Jitsu article or something, and it was, we talked about this with our kids. They're like, and the article was like, how to know if your training partners mad at you or something. It was something. And what they was talking about was like, when you go hard like that, and the guys are like, dude, are we cool? And the reality is you're being a responsible, like for comp training, of course. But like when you're being a good teammate
- Yeah
- To when you, when you go that pace with them, like, you're not, you're not helping anybody letting them pass. You're not helping anybody giving them moves that they really wouldn't have gotten. You're not helping anybody.
- Yeah
- In fact, you're hurting them.
- Yeah
- And so like, to kind of like to give, to impose your will on your opponent and have them feel like they've got nothing they can do about it. Like you're helping them. We tell that with the kids, the parents, the other kid was going really hard. What would you like him to do? Would you like him to let the other kid win and give him a false sense of security?
- You know, for those of you watching that are not, that don't have a, like a deeper understanding of what we do. One of the things that we do in our programs and our kids' programs, is we tell the kids that if you don't try your best, even if you're losing, you're actually stealing and cheating
- 100% Yeah.
- So we use the word stealing and cheating, and we even let the adults know that because if you're working with a partner, again, everybody has independent goals to achieve at that moment and in their life. But we're all working towards our goals every single day. And if you come to work, or you come to the gym, and you're working out with somebody, and you're not giving 100% you're stealing, you're lying. And you're cheating from your partner. And we say that to the kids.
- Yeah you're cheating your partner for sure.
- You have to try your best, and you have to try your best, you know? And that's the only way that you can really help the people around you, is if you bring all of the effort that you have, and it doesn't have to be better than the other person, but you just gotta bring everything because, hard work never ever, gets unnoticed and unrewarded in your life, on the mat and off the mat.
- Absolutely. So that's the teammates. And then, can I, you know, can I bring up a conversation? It's not about Jiu Jitsu, but it was really simple, rent or own a home.
- Okay.
- Which one?
- I mean, do I not have the money to buy a house? Do I only have the money to rent the house?
- Well, okay. We're talking like, you know, obviously everyone's in different positions, but we're talking about the housing market Big Short, by the way is an awesome movie about that, But like,
- I need to watch it, I haven't seen it
- It's dude, it's got some, legit actors and it's got Christian Bale. It's got Ryan Gosling. It's got Steve Carell Like, it's got big names in it. It was just slept on. No one knows about it, but this isn't about the housing market crash. It's just about rent to own. Like,
- Okay,
- Like what is there one that's better than the other?
- 100%, own 100% own, own, own. The sooner, the earlier that you could own a house, the better, the sooner you go, because you know, there's a few reasons, but I'll just name one. I have somebody, who works for me, Orlando. All right. And he's making enough money to pay a mortgage on a house. In like Lincoln park or like, you know, Melvindale, probably even Elm park, a small house. he's making enough money to do it. And I'm like, look, man, if you have the money to pay for it, number one, you can get some tax write-offs by owning your own home. If you have the money and you're not investing it, like, what the hell you doing? You know what I'm saying? I don't like, he still lives with his mom. And I think he wants to and nothing against that, because if my mom would live with me, I would have her tomorrow. You know, I'd love for my mom.
- I literally, my mom and I had that conversation, where it was about something else. But I was like, yeah, you can come live with us. I'll build an in-law suite cause you'll have your own space, but like, you know.
- Yeah, but my mom is like no, no, no, no. I'm not living with you or whatever. But, yeah I think that, like, you know, you add up all the miscellaneous expenses and it forces you just to budget and you don't have to be good at money. But if it can force you to budget a little bit, to be responsible about X amount of dollars for owning your own home in 5 years, 10 years, 15 or 20 years or whatever, you know, I think that owning is so, so critical. Like as soon as it's possible. what's your opinion?
- You know, I think it, I don't think there's a, I mean, I obviously, I own a home. I don't actually use the, I don't believe in the term own until it's paid off. So like I'm in the process of owning a home, but they, I don't want to say there's a right answer for anybody. Like, so there are some people, it depends on, what you want your life to look like. Okay. So like, and it depends on, it depends on the home. It depends on your available time. All these things matter. So like, when you own an apartment, guess what you don't have to pay for, the roof when it leaks. the plumbing, like right now, I have a leaky bathroom or a faucet in my bathtub. And I'm like scared to death because I can do a lot of things, plumbing's just not one of them. I was like, frick, man. So now I got to call a plumber, which is like $5,000 an hour just to come to my door because trades are just hyper-inflated at the moment. So like, so all these things like.
- And, you know, plumbers, the work that they do, plumbers, electrician, it is.
- That'd be $600 bill. You swap a fitting.
- Yeah. You don't pay him for what they can do. You pay him for what they know.
- Yeah. Yeah. You pay him for the years it took to learn to do it so efficiently. Yeah. No, I'm not totally dogging it. So, but they, so like, those are things. So it sounds great, when you're paying 1100 a month or 1200 a month, you're like, oh, but I can, I can get a house. My mortgage would be 750 or 800. Okay. So you're saving 300 bucks a month or whatever. It's 3000 a year, 3,600 a year. You just have to, like, there are very real expenses that hit like to a house. And I again, I'm not saying one way or the other, I would just say like, you know, I would much rather, I guess it's how much time do you want to spend either doing the work yourself or, like that, or you, you do learn skillsets. There's just a lot of expenses that are slept on, when you own a home. Like, people don't talk about that. They always talk about how much money you can save owning versus renting. Even in the real estate investment groups around, they're like the real money's not made in your cashflow. Like when everyone thinks landlords, you pay a thousand dollars a month to a landlord, and he's like pocketing a thousand dollars,
- Hell no.
- His taxes, all these things that go into the house,
- One repair.
- Yeah.
- Puts them back 3-6 months
- Yeah, Six months, Right? Right. So those things you know come into play. They're making money on the equity.
- Yeah.
- Like really? Like, that's it. And that's where I think if you realize that, like over time, you know, like, so my grandpa, I mean, actually Amanda's grandfather, like bought a house in the 50's for like 10 grand, you know? And he was like between like Detroit and Lavonia, but like, you know, houses in the area where he was looking, they were easily going for 150, 170. So that's, that's the equity that's built over 30 years, okay? So I wouldn't say it's like an all absolutely Yes, absolutely no, if you're like a rocking mortgage broker, and you work 70 hours a week, and you have no time at home. And you just don't want to have to worry about anything. I don't know rental is not a bad gig. You know
- Yeah
- The flexibility that comes with it. I mean, what if your life like, what if you don't know where you're going to be in five years?
- Well, there is, a psychological factor in my opinion.
- Sure.
- That every day you go home and you're renting, it's not yours.
- I 100% agree. You're you're right. I agree with that.
- And I
- I agree with that. Yes. This isn't my home. Yeah. I agree with that.
- And I went through that before, and luckily I was staying in a, you know, one of my cousins had a really big, nice house. I was staying for awhile, Dr. Elder, I know you're not on here, but amazing, amazing person. So yeah, I was staying in his house, and it was a really big house, really nice area. And I was next to other family members. And I couldn't ask for more than that, but there is something that when you go home every day that you know it doesn't belong to you. Everything that you do every time you really clean up and it looks so nice, it's not yours.
- And it's that pride of ownership.
- Yeah.
- Even if you got, even if, even if, and I will agree with that, like even, and that's why I see people like they've got, because everyone's buying different homes, but like you'll see like guys with a little starter home, like in Alan Park or Lincoln park or wherever.
- Yeah
- And dude, I'm so happy for them, because that's like a really big, that's a big fun moment, you know? and even though it may not be like, you know, cause everyone's, you know, whatever their ideal home is like, that's awesome. Because like that, like you have that, oh, I 100 percent agree with that. That portion I do is very valuable.
- Yeah. My sister posted a question. Shanaz is saying, don't buy until you're comfortable. And they, this was on my page, but yeah you know, depending on what stage in life you're at, sometimes most of the time, it's not a good idea to go all in and just, you know, to buy a house, you do have to be in a little bit of a position, to make that move. Cause it's not like,
- Sure
- It's not just like a down payment and a monthly payment. There's a lot of financial added expenses that go into just getting into that process, a process, you know? So I agree. It has to be right time for the right person at their stage in life.
- You know, one thing I wish I had been told, it's so simple. I swear I wish they would have told me this, Is your mortgage should be no more, than 25% of your take-home income. like to put yourself like, like my first mortgage was like 45% of my take home.
- Wow.
- I ended up, that's the house I ended up selling. Cause I just couldn't afford it. Like for the next 30 years, like I just couldn't afford it. You end up being house poor. So like, if you know, your goal should be to have that be no more, whatever you pay for taxes and insurance.
- Well you know the mortgage company has that formula. I forget what that number is. But they say your total expenses, cannot exceed a certain percentage of your total income.
- I mean, it depends on how they write mortgages.
- Yeah.
- Somehow I got a pre, you know, somehow I got approved for my first home at 45% of my take-home they, so we got 50 minutes. We have 50 minutes. We got a few minutes here. So, we got that one. Here I'd be curious to know this one for you. If you had to choose a hobby other than Brazilian Jiu Jitsu, what would it be?
- Like,
- You have to
- Like a hobby?
- Let's say, I'm not saying like, you get injured, you can't train. Like, let's say Brazilian Jiu Jitsu doesn't exist. Like the concept never existed. What would it be?
- Like a physical hobby?
- Whatever.
- If it's not a physical hobby, it's learning.
- It could be whatever.
- Okay. If it's not physical, easy. learning to play the piano,
- The piano.
- Yup.
- What's stopping you.
- Don't call me out like that.
- I'm just like, you know what?
- Don't call me out like that.
- You know what I, you know what I honestly wanna learn.
- I feel so guilty every freaking day.
- I'm just say like, like if that's something that you're interested in, like, like, just get a little keyboard and, you know, start playing, you know.
- Yeah, playing a piano. If it wasn't something like a physical, cause I got to do something physical, it would definitely be picking up the hobby of playing the piano.
- I feel like we have a piano instructor. I feel like we at least know someone who has.
- If there are any piano instructors on, in Metro Jiu Jitsu in our team, I'm soliciting piano lessons. And I tried it before, but I had a bunch of stores at the time, and I was like, I just see.
- Yeah. It says, it's definitely some that you got to, like, you have to intentionally carve out to make time for you.
- Yeah
- Mine would be. And this wouldn't be my answer, but.
- Sorry to interrupt but, I don't know how to play the piano.
- Oh, you want to learn? Like you want to learn and then play.
- I didn't play instruments when I was younger, I didn't do any of that stuff. So, but I just know the piano, is going to be one thing that I would enjoy, probably as much as Jiu Jitsu.
- Okay. Mine wouldn't be, this one wouldn't be my answer. But like Amanda and I were talking and we got a couple of weddings coming up, and like, I was like, you know what, man, I'm sick of being like, the Gumpy white boy who doesn't know how to dance. Like I, at least other than the main songs, like I would like to like be able to actively dance a little bit with Amanda without looking awkward. Like It's not that I want to enjoy dancing. I just don't want to look like a stork with a broken leg. When I dance. So, but that wouldn't be my hobby, but that's talking about like, artistically
- You want to learn how to do it?
- Yeah I think I have the one to learn that I would love to learn another language, but well, I mean, I speak English. Most people have to learn our language. So we're doing okay.
- When Jabril or my kids get married. You're going to come to the wedding. You have you been to an Arabic wedding?
- No, but you guys are doing like flips and stuff. Like I literally saw guys like in a circle doing back flips. And I'm like, I'm just not
- Bro
- I'm not going to able to hang.
- At weddings, It's like an unwritten law. It's like the more you dance. Cause the night of what do you call it? Conception. That's usually, usually when you know that night or after that week or whatever, but like the more the man dances, the more stamina it shows he has.
- Oh wow.
- So you gotta be going, you gotta be dancing all night long
- I would be, yeah, I'd be the first one out, man. I'd be like, I just like, cause we
- Bro
- Dancing is exhausting. And I like sweat kind of easy. So I'm not like now I'm in like a three-piece suit and I'm like all hot and sweaty and I gotta like, I gotta go sit down. Like, I'm not like, I'm good for like a few songs. You know? I just want like, if something comes on and I want to dance with Amanda, I just don't want to look like, you know, I just don't want to look like, every other white boy who doesn't know how to dance, and most of them don't and you see one guy with even a little bit of moves, you're like, oh, that guy looks good. And he probably took like three weeks worth of dance lessons I don't think it's difficult. I just think it's like,
- yeah
- where am I gonna go make time for dance classes?
- I mean, as big as you are. You definitely will stand out a little bit if you're not in tune with the beats.
- Yeah. No. It's it's you ever seen the jerk with Steve Martin.
- I think so.
- Oh yeah. And he's like trying to like clap along. He was raised by like a Southern family, like trying to clap, he just he's off the whole time.
- Yeah
- And it's like, that's what I look like when I dance.
- Yeah. Well I think we definitely have to give you at least like a three-day Arabic dance tutorial, before my kids' weddings.
- Something. Yeah. Like it's. Yeah. It's already going to be ... I'll be about 30 years behind everyone else.
- Yeah
- So three days would be helpful.
- No we can get you up to speed.
- Okay.
- No we can get you up to speed
- Good to know.
- Can we have time for another one?
- We do. So someone says you can tune a piano. You can't tune a fish. Rocky. I wish I'd finished reading it before I put the pun on on the screen. I don't know who that is. That's gotta be Chad. It's gotta be Chad. We've got time for one more.
- Alright.
- Yeah. The lineage, man, that's getting nerdy with it. Jiu Jitsu lineage is, horse breeding in martial arts. That's Jiu Jitsu lineage. In a nutshell, you want to go into that? What's Jiu Jitsu lineage?
- Is that our last one?
- Yeah. Well the last one, if we have time, I want to get to that one, but we may not have time, but we'll do the lineage thing. What is lineage? What is Jiu Jitsu lineage?
- Lineages. Who's your instructor simply put.
- Okay, but more go further.
- Who's your instructor, who did they train under and who did they train under and, who did they train under? Right.
- To get to where?
- Ultimately? like to Helio Gracie.
- Literally it's like, how are you, have you ever seen a Knight's tale, with Heath Ledger? And he's like, I need you to prove who you are like. And so like the guy, the one character makes these fake records of
- Yeah
- like how he's had we go back and how he's connected to Royal bloodline. That's my issue with lineage, bro. like, and I get it, like, trust me, I get it. Cause there are, there is like fake Jiu Jitsu, not all Jiu Jitsu is created equal. You get that authenticity. But like, when you get into, oh, well I'm only two steps removed from Helio and he's four steps removed from Helio. So it's horse breeding.
- Okay. But does it matter for the new person coming in,
- Not at all.
- And your lineage,
- 0%
- Okay.
- 0% and, I will go on record and irritate every Brazilian, 0%. How close you are to Helio Gracie, plays 0% on your Jiu Jitsu.
- What I would say, as far as your lineage goes, is the closer it is. Like if I told you who my grandfather was, great grandfather was, like the connection between me and him and how I lived my life. Two different times, two different era's. You know, the world was a completely different place. What matters is, who my dad was because I basically studied directly under my dad. So when people ask about lineage and who your lineage is, you know, they obviously don't know much about Jiu Jitsu, but what's important to know is who the person that you're learning from and you're under, what impact are they making in the Jiu Jitsu community today is going to tell you more about lineage. So when you ask about lineage and they ask about like, you know, like who you under and stuff like that, the three, four people above, they don't really matter right now. What matters is, who is our mentor? Who are we studying under? Who's influencing mine and your decision to make the.
- Your immediate coach like, so who's your coach. Yeah
- Yeah Your immediate coach, and maybe right above them. But what's important to say is like, who is the standard for me and our competition team. Who's the standard for me and making sure we have a certain type of culture in Jiu Jitsu. That's Danny Alvarez and Bruno Bastos.
- Yep.
- You know, And as we make friends inside the network, there's other local school owners that also influence us. So it's not about who'd you learn under it's about who you're surrounding yourself around.
- I'm going to answer. That's a good question. So we actually just said, just to let you play and correct me if I'm wrong. When we when we changed affiliations to professor Danny, we,
- Alvarez
- Or professor Alvarez, we actually, we actually moved further away, from the original Helios Gracie because I believe it was It went Danny Blankie, Saulo, like we were like five branches away.
- Yeah.
- And then I think we went like, nah, I think we went, Cause we didn't care. It was who we wanted to follow as our immediate coach, which is exactly what coach Mohammad is saying. So we moved further away. Cause it doesn't, It really doesn't matter.
- We did, but there's something to be noted that we're under Danny Alvarez right now. Right?
- Yeah.
- Danny Alvarez is half the size of Bruno Bastos who's like, he's a gorilla. He's a giant.
- He literally is
- He is a giant.
- Yeah
- But I swear he's a nicest man.
- Yeah I hear you
- I never would've thought about it. You follow it.
- He's intimidating, he's intimidating.
- His size is.
- Like on social
- His look is intimidating, but he's a nicest human being. But he moved, he started training Jiu Jitsu when he was four years old, he was in Brazil, and he came here like 15 years ago or 20 years ago. But he came directly from the source. So I'd have to ask him and say the lineage thing, where do you fall in? Who are you under or whatever. So we might be even closer than we thought then before.
- Yeah. Well, yeah. If someone asks me like obviously we're with team lead, professor Bruno. Someone asked me my coach though, my coach is coach Danny
- Danny Alvarez
- Danny Alvarez But someone said, is there a difference for the term coach vs. professor? I mean, professor,
- Professor
- Is pretty much black, Like you can't and black belt, like it's like you can't call, you can't really call it brown belt a professor.
- Yeah. Someone puts in 14, 15 years in, studying something and they it's like a, it's literally like surgery. If you walk into a room and somebody's heart is open, and you have doctors meticulously working on every, nerve, every artery and all that stuff. It's surgery, what we do with the body and the mind. So in my opinion, anybody who has a black belt, unless they don't want to be called that. Yeah. They should be called professor.
- Yup. So yeah. That's, that's the difference. Good question. I don't know who that is. Facebook users. So that's it, man. That's it? Well, we'll save this question for, for that's that's a longer question. We'll save that for the next one. So.
- What we'll answer next week, you guys could think about it. And David and I talk about this all the time, is college worth the tuition? That's definitely going to be one of our next subjects.
- Anyone who knows me already knows my answer but, stay tuned next week and you'll find out. All right guys. So thank you guys so much for tuning in, post your question. If you have any other questions, post them in the group. When you see this, if you're seeing this on YouTube or you see the YouTube link, go ahead and subscribe. We don't bite. We put out great shorts, coach Christian does awesome things like that. And honestly, really helps us out with our, with getting more members on our team.
- More importantly, if you're not training Jiu Jitsu, or you haven't been into the gym, don't talk about it, be about it. Get your butt into the gym.
- I agree. Yeah. You can only follow it for so long. And then there's a point where like, how long are you going to be a fan, before you be a practitioner? Sooner the better. So, all right guys, coach David and coach Mohammad as always, we'll see you [Both] on the mats.
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